In today's episode I want to talk a little bit about how to Man up.
In today's world the when someone tells you to "man up" they usually mean get a grip, stop feeling upset or down and to be honest I hate that.
That kind of man up usually implies the old, Me man, do man things, you woman mind set that only leads to what people now call toxic masculinity
It's ok to feel upset or down about Something, being in touch with your feelings does not make you less of a man.
Look, the way I see it, there are not enough real men in the world today
I'm talking about real men who are good, decent roll models men with traits such as a devotion to work, pride in excelling at sports, and providing for their family, men who are not considered "toxic". With their me man, do man things, drink beer and watch football, fast cars, women, more beer, fwarr look at her, grunt, grunt knuckle draggers, kind of man with notches on his bedpost showing how many women he has slept with because, well that's what men do.
The old Norse men of the Viking age were real men, not because they raided villages, killed, raped and pillaged, for one, that is how history would like us to see them.
No, they lived by codes, honour and reputation was everything.
I have spoken about this in one of my YouTube videos. These were men who's word was their bond, if they said that they were going to do something, they did it,
No excuses, no, oh I couldn't be arsed or I forgot. They just did it.
Makes you kind of think about what you're saying doesn't it
Family came first, they worked hard because, well, that's what you're supposed to be doing, that's what you get paid to do.
There is something in Norse paganism called the "Nine Noble Virtues"
They go something like this
Courage: This is not just in the face of your enemies, but in you're convictions, stand up for what you believe in, if you see something which is wrong or unjust, say something, don't be that person who thinks, someone else will say something, chances are that someone else is thinking the same thing, that's now no one stands up and says anything and that's how injustice and hate gets to carry on.
Yes there will be times that you might upset someone and yes there will be people who start to dislike you but you will be known as someone who is truthful, is trustworthy and someone who can be relied on.
Honour: There is a stanza in the Havamal, The words of Odin which reads, Cows die, your sheep will die and you will die to, the only thing that does not die is a man's reputation.
The Oxford online dictionary defines honour as respect, being proud and honesty, in the quality of doing and knowing what is right.
Fidelity: Fidelity means that you are loyal to one person, a cause or a belief.
Don't chase after another person's partner, just don't do it.
Helheim a special place for those who are not faithful, meathog the serpent will look forward to having you as a new chew toy.
Discipline: when we talk about discipline, we don't mean the about, order giving, stand to attention discipline
Of course we mean self discipline, not hitting snooze when your alarm goes off at 4 am for work, leaving that chocolate bar you have in your bag for emergencies, even though it tastes so good and, well you really want it now.
It's about making a schedule and sticking to it.
If you can not have some self discipline, know your weaknesses and work on them while building your strengths. Well
The best advice I ever heard was from Joe Rogan, when he said
Be the hero in your own movie, right now the movie has just started and your life is a shit bag disaster, just decide not to be a looser any more.
To do this will take discipline, no the gods will not help you, but, they will have respect for you for just showing up and getting shit done
Hospitality: This one is simple, the clue is in the title, be hospitable, don't be an arsehole, be nice to people who enter your home.
This goes back to the hospitality part of the Havamal, being a good host was a huge thing in those days, the last thing you wanted was for people to say that you are an ungracious, inhospitable host, that would do your reputation no good at all.
Self Reliance: The thing about paganism, in particular Norse Paganism is that our gods are not there for you to bow down to or kneel and beg forgiveness.
Our gods want you to stand up and be proud,to say I can and will do this, I do not need to rely on anyone, no government, no people to get me by, I can and will do this myself.
You can also see the self reliance aspects in preparing for a in emergency, you can not rely on the paramedics or whoever to come to help you in the next 10 minutes of the shit is hitting the fan.
This is on you, you need to be ready, you need to have a plan.
It's self reliance, it's family first what ever happens, you need to step up and, well, man up and do what needs to be done.
Industriousness: Hard work, we go to work to work, to earn money not to dick about and do as little as possible.
Industriousness and being able to think on your feet was one of the ways our ancestors gained good reputation, he/she works hard they will get the job done and they will do it well
Perseverance: Perseverance is never giving up, yes you might fail but keep at it, use the times you fail as a lesson.
It's about keeping going, even though you are tired, cold and hungry.
I am doing what ever I can to live by these values.